Writing this just to sprinkle some water over my dry blog... Give a casual reading!
Love is one of the most common emotion about which we talk about, yet probably the most indescribable and vague. Love is not one of the primary emotions like happiness or sadness or anger, yet we feel it in every relationship we are in. We talk about love between brothers and sisters, father and mother, granddaughter and grandfather and among friends too. Even though love is an important ingredient in each and every relation, explaining it is not easy.
Anyways I am not going to talk about brotherly love or the love expressed by parents to their children. My focus here will be the love which exists between the couple who are dating each other, yet not married and the concept of “Love at first sight”! Ok, yesterday I was having a pretty long discussion with a friend of mine where she was adamant that sex is not all ways necessary in love relationship while I had the opposite views.
As personally, I could not categorize love as an emotion or a feeling. Anyhow, even differentiating feeling and emotion is equally tough and subjective. But one thing I am sure of that it is accumulation of feelings/emotions and not a result of “direct lead in-lead out system”. Though by mentioning of - Accumulation of feelings, I don’t mean a junkyard of all the sweet memories.
Now the self created model of love which makes sense to me is LOVE = 1) JOY + 2) TRUST + 3) SEX. For a love relationship to be successful these three basic components needs to be there. Well, here I am talking about LOVE and not crush or some random wild sex. Well other surface needs like security, respect and warmth are crucial too. The priorities may be different, but as I said it’s my personal model so I classify them as “Side needs”.
Now, Love without any of these:-
- Joy + Trust:-
Obviously yes, there will be love, but very much similar to love between friends and siblings.
- Trust + Sex:-
Two people develop a trust and feel that they can have a casual sex. Love & happiness exists only till the time one gets an orgasm.
- Joy + Sex:-
Simple! Sex for fun. But, what is missing is LOVE!
Anyways, I doesn’t mean that they happen in an hour time. It is a process and it has to be followed strictly in this same serial order.
Firstly, two people should spend some FUN time with each other and get to know each other well. It should not be like, first meeting followed by a Bang-Bang!
Secondly, TRUST being an important factor needs to be well developed between two partners. While one may replace this term as “respect” too.
Thirdly, SEX; Physical intimacy plays a very important role in a relationship. Anyways, sex may not always refer to intercourse or Ok….never mind!
And regarding the hyped concept of “Love at first sight”. It never happens according to me. One needs to pass on the first two stages at least to experience even a bit of love.
Damnit! Wrote about something related to love. Funny! But yea, it’s easy. Does not include much of brain work.
